Chubby Girl Diaries

Nobody wants to waste their time on something that’s not right in the first place. I have seen people staying in relationships for about 5 years and then separating. There are multiple reasons but most of the time they truly don’t know their partner.

Because communicating with your partner and living with the same person are different.

It’s not always that someone walks their talks as well.

So, here are 5 red flags that will tell you whether you should continue the relationship or not!

You are always the listener!

I feel that this is the biggest red flag because communication has to be two ways. Both should be acting as listeners as well as speakers.

If your partner is always the speaker and you are always listening to his stories and you are not able to make him listen to your side then you are in the wrong relationship. Now, there are 2 ways to come out of this zone; either you go ahead and explain to him what’s going on and he tries to work on it along with you so that you keep on going into the relationship. Or you can just end it there if it feels too much.

Your partner is selfish!

You want a partner who cares for you as you do for him, right?!

So, the person you are with should acknowledge you by always making time for you even on the busiest days. If he says he was busy and that’s why didn’t get the time to call you. Well, then you are not free either.

Yes, sometimes it’s understandable but always saying busy is a no-no girl!

You don’t have to be available for a person who is not available to you.

Because a man, if truly loves someone, will make time NO MATTER WHAT!

So, if he doesn’t care about you and gives priorities to other people and other things, then you deserve better.

Your partner is toxic.

Now, I want to make one thing clear which is the definition of toxicity is different for different people.

For some, it feels like domination and being controlled by their partner. For them, I would say, girl, you are smart enough to make your own choices, it’s the 21st Century. You don’t have to depend upon the man or let him control you in any way.

For others, it feels like confusion because their definition of care differs from other persons’. For example, if your partner keeps on asking you where you are, with whom, doing what….. etc. and you feel that this is not what you want from your partner. If you feel like your partner is not trusting you then you have to make it STOP.

While some partners like it when they are being asked about their whereabouts all the time. So, if it’s fine for you, it’s fine for us.

Also read 7 toxic habits to quit this year.

Your partner keeps secrets from you.

When you are in a relationship, you guys must share everything.

It is also important that whatever you know about whosoever, you don’t just keep it to yourself, you share it with your partner and together you keep it a secret. Because if you don’t do it together, today or tomorrow it’s gonna create differences.

But obviously, this kind of bond takes time to develop. You just don’t share secrets with any random person, you need to make sure he is honest, and loyal to you then only you share things.

And if you can keep things in between you two, then you are the right match.

You feel uncomfortable around him.

Sometimes, what happens is you feel fine when you are communicating online but when you see each other one-on-one, you feel uncomfortable, then it’s not right.

And I am talking about uncomfortableness even after meeting each other for a long time regularly.

Because with the love of your life, communication has to be smooth, especially if you are seeing each other for some time.

Or sometimes it’s about the way they see you or touch you and feel uncomfortable. If you don’t like it, you have every right to make it stop.

You have to feel safe with your partner.

All in all, your partner should trust you, care for you, make time for you, love you and make you feel safe.

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I hope this post helped you in some way. Thank you so much for reading.