Certain rules exist to be socially acceptable and live a convenient life. But who wants to compromise themselves just for the sake of acceptance? Do you? I don’t.
So, today I have come up with certain ways that you might have known all the time as well. These guidelines will help you smoothen your connections without losing your true self.
So, let’s get started!!!
Be straightforward:
In the long term, the person who receives respect and is treated well is not someone who lies just to make the other person feel okay.
It’s the person who sees the truth and speaks it out. But obviously, you don’t have to be a bitch and blabbermouth whatever! Make sense, please!
And play it polite when you’re disagreeing with something.
Be kind:
If your closest friend asks for borrowing your recently bought luxury car for some time for a pretty decent reason, I know you won’t be able to give it easily. Why?
Because you know it’s expensive and you’re doubtful about your friends taking care of it. Makes sense!!!
But sometimes you have to do certain things that make you go out of your comfort zone just to make the other person feel good. I mean it’s your choice but if you do help someone in an emergency, that’s too kind of you.
You’ll always be remembered. Also, what you give, you get back!! So if you’re helping, do it wholeheartedly.
Don’t take everything to your heart:
There’s always this one person in the group who’ll say mean things in a very cool way and say they were kidding.
Believe me, they aren’t. So, how to deal with that? Mmm.. well in my opinion just ignore them.
When someone’s being mean/ rude, they are expressing a part of themselves not you. Don’t let others’ mean comments affect you.
Stay strong! I know you’re the overthinker type but hey, who isn’t? Give yourself time!
Return things timely:
It is so important to return the stuff if you’re borrowing it. You may feel like they might forget about it but nobody does.
I had a friend in 7th grade who borrowed my favourite pen and never returned it. She would probably not remember it but I do.
Especially when it comes to money, you have to do that without them asking you to do so. Also if you borrowed someone’s vehicle, refill it. It’s a basic requirement.
Hold the door open for others:
I know this may sound cliche but it is what it is. You have to always, I repeat ALWAYS hold the door open for the person behind you! That’s the least you could do to be kind.
Be polite to cleaners/ waiters:
Honestly, it doesn’t matter what you do and how much you earn. What matters is how you treat others. Therefore, it’s important to pay attention to how you speak with others.
You don’t have to give a $100 tip to make them feel good, if you’re super rich you can do that of course. But it’s more important that you don’t speak with them rudely.
Kind words such as please and thank you would make their day. Please be kind and spread smiles.
Respect others’ opinions:
Every person has a different perspective.
What may seem half empty to you will appear half full to someone else. Be that person who’s able to see and distinguish both sides without discriminating or disrespecting.
Don’t buy the most expensive meal when someone else’s treating you:
I have seen so many people doing that. I mean what do you get out of it? No, seriously? Step into the other person’s shoes and see how difficult that might would be if it were you. Don’t be idiotic. Act-wise, huh?
Don’t ever tease someone to an extent that they feel sad:
I mean it. If you know someone doesn’t take things to her heart all the time doesn’t mean that they don’t have a heart at all.
They may not express that at that time but they could be feeling bad from within. Don’t do it. Just don’t. It’s annoying and cheap!
I hope this post was helpful. Thank you for reading.